Each of us can be challenged when working with people who do not see things the way we see them, and/or do not share our values. Perhaps in some cases these differences are irreconciliable. More likely, we may have misinterpreted the observed behavior. Reframing is a way to re-interpret behavior we see and to ascribe an alternative meaning to this behavior.

Why do we want to reframe? When we observe behavior that is the opposite of what we use, or value, our tendency is to negatively judge the behavior and make assumptions about that person. Assumptions which may, or may not, be correct. We are less likely to engage those who exhibit these 'negative' attributes. By not seeking further clarity, or checking out the intent of the behavior, we limit our ability to see different interpretations of the behavior. Different interpretations which may lead to a new understanding and more creative outcomes.

The following exercise was developed by Edie Seashore and is intended to help you 'reframe' behaviors and attributes you might find challenging to understand or may not value.

Instructions:

• Using an index card, draw two vertical lines creating three equally spaced columns. In column one, choose and record three words that positively describe you. These may be words you, or others use to describe yourself. These are attributes and descriptors you value and hold as important.

Share your descriptors with a partner. Briefly discuss how these words 'feel' or sound to you.

• In column two, write words with the opposite meaning to the word in column one. Again, share the results with your partner. How do the words in column two sound, or 'feel', to you?
• In column three, write a word, or words, with an alternative, more positive interpretation of the words in column two. This is called 'reframing'.

Once again working with your partner, discuss how the words in column three sound, 'feel', and impact you. How might 'reframing' help you to engage in constructive dialog with people who are different from you?